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Isolation In Escorting

The feeling of isolation is something many escorts face. Most often this is due to dealing with the taboos of society. Fear creates a barrier. Very often ladies are not able to speak openly about there career choice to friends or family therefore feeling isolated. The are of course other ladies in the industry who share this feeling. Yet again due to fears regarding cattiness and competition ladies are very often reluctant to seek out friendship within the industry. Isolation is something you should definitely deal with head on. For many isolation leads to negative energy or lack of enthusiasm when it comes to clients. The saddest things we see from isolation in the industry is self medicating with can be life changing.

If these are your thoughts, you are by no means alone. I counsel women on a weekly basis for just this reason. I am privileged to consult on business choices and the lifestyle itself. Most importantly I am able to lend an ear. Sometimes it is things going on in their personal life. More often than not it’s issues we all face on our path as courtesans. There are some ladies that aid their self care by having a professional counselor or mentor in there life. I find that professional counselors can be helpful if they are non-judgmental about your career choice. (Venting to clients is highly discouraged)

You can make friends in the industry. It takes time and patients. As with any relationship to you have to pick and choose who you give your energy to. Filtering is also very important. I’m not saying they will be you BFF for life. However, it is helpful to have some you can “talk shop” with sort of speak. As in most cases where our fears stand in our way. You will most likely find you have far more in common than differences. You may even find a bit of a “sisterhood” very often lost of late with the influx of new talent to the industry. On many occasions I have often learned a new trick or two.

No matter the route you take. I believe that just being heard and hearing that others share your feelings or concerns is very healing. It ultimately creates a good balance between caring for your clients and caring for yourself. You exhaust a lot of energy doing for others. It is a small way you can give back to yourself.

I hope you find this helpful.. Arden xo

*Note: I ask if you want to ask questions or respond to this post you do so here. I would like to be able to share experiences with as many as possible.

Blurring Your Face

There is no right or wrong on whether to blur your face. I have found over the years it doesn’t seem to make much difference either way.

I have found that some ladies are not sure how to blur their face. I personally use Photoshop to blur my own. There are a number of simple software programs that contain a bur tool. You should also be aware a number of the major advertisers offer this service at not charge. You can contact their representative or include when the request in you email with the ad content.

In addition many advertising sites have a blur tool in your account settings that you can use to blur or crop your photos.

It’s typically pretty straight forward. If you aren’t really very computer savvy. Don’t be be concerned over learning something new. It’s super easy. You got this!

Here is a previous entry on taking photos on your own. It’s a little outdated but still effective.

https://mastercourtesan.com/2013/07/20/simple-steps-to-taking-your-own-photos/

Best of luck!

Arden

Working On Your Cycle

Let’s face it. No one really likes to talk about this, but everyone wants to know. So here goes…

Let me start by saying everyone is different. These are just general methods to dealing with your monthly friend.

If you do have a regular cycle I always recommended taking a few days off to let your body cleanse itself naturally. Sometimes this isn’t an option if you have something special planned. Here are some of the most common ways ladies deal with this topic.

1) Getting on birth control so you no longer have a cycle.

2) Keeping track of your 28 day cycle and taking off the day of heavy flow.

3) Using a non-latex makeup sponge on light days or spotting.

4) Using a “soft cup” or  the “diva cup”. (Effectiveness will depend on your anatomy. Tend to leak if your flow is heavy)

5) Using makeup sponges placed inside of a soft cup.

6) Cutting a tampon in half, with exception of the string. Balling up the string and placing it in it’s entirety up as far as you are comfortable. (Leave the string! It may be tricky to get back out)

7) Shepard’s Purse is a homeopathic said to stop cycle flow if taken at onset of your cycle.

8) Use red or colored condoms if you are light or spotting. This way there will be no red tinge on the end of the condom if you are spotting a bit.

Please take caution when inserting anything. It should be covering your cervix. At the same time you don’t want it lodged so far up you can’t retrieve it later. Sometimes doggie or deeper positions are good to avoid. That may keep the material from being placed any further up the vaginal canal.

Hope this is helpful!

Arden

What is Escorting?

This is an excerpt from “The Courtesan Handbook” Having a background knowledge of, as well as, a love for what you do make for longevity in the industry.  ~Arden Moon

What is escorting? Basically, to be an escort is to receive money or gifts in exchange for your company and, in many cases, a sexual encounter. Does this mean that an escort lies on her back and someone just hands her money? No. Making top dollar as a professional escort takes work. You have to have good looks, brains and class. Furthermore, being an escort is not for everyone. Before you even start to read this book you should take the readiness test and see how you score. You may find the world of escorting isn’t as easy as you think. There is no way to transfer all my years of know-how to you. My hope is that by the time you finish this book, you will have all the tools you need to develop your own business style without going about things “the hard way.” To start, I want to introduce a key concept: The Three S’s.

Sales, Safety and Sanity!

Never let those three basic ideas leave your mind in any transaction. I can give you the tools, but you have to use them.
In the past escorting was not perceived as a profession or trade. Although often termed “The world’s oldest profession,” many still look upon the career as solely the domain of down-fallen women. It is a pity that, no matter her background, an escorted may still find herself tagged with this stereotype. Women in the escort business are often assumed to be abused, mentally unstable, on drugs, or possibly pressured by a significant other or pimp. Whether walking the street or working as a high class companion, there may always be a stigma attached to the profession. Because you are not sticking to the social norms, being an escort will cause you to look at the world in a different than the rest of the population does. Why be normal? Normal and mundane is highly overrated. Different minds will perceive you in different ways. Do not be surprised if even the most understanding individuals still look at you as somewhat defective.
There will also always be some mental and physical risks that you take as an escort. Due to these risks, friends and family will most likely prefer to see you in a “healthier lifestyle.” You’ll have to decide, up front, how much you want your personal life to cross over into your professional. How much do you want those close to you to know? My hope is that with over a decade of experience in adult entertainment, I can guide you through the safest way to create a lucrative business, as well as take care of yourself personally.
To begin this process I think it is very important to know the history of the courtesan. Why? I believe having a history of those who came before you will help instill a sense of pride for what you do.
I’ll be up front and let you know now that being on someone else’s dime all the time can wear on you personally. The more pride you can take in yourself and your occupation the better off you will be. “Courtesan” is a long forgotten term used centuries ago in the profession. The courtesan was very often a female companion to royalty and nobles. Very often it was the courtesan that kept the economy moving in newborn cities and towns. Many women actually achieved great wealth and courtesans were some of the earliest female business and land owners.
The book, Grandes Horizontales, The Lives and Legend of Four Nineteenth Century Courtesans, by Virginia Rounding is an excellent read for the life story of a renowned courtesan envied for her wealth and immortalized in sculpture and poetry. Other great sources for background on the art of escorting can be found via a number of History Channel productions. Their productions of the History of Sex, History of Prostitution: Sex in the City, and Prostitution: Sex and the Law are excellent for a look at escorting through the ages.

Dating As An Escort

Dating as an escort is a very common concern. Most likely it will remain to be until a time when there is less taboo around sexuality here in the United States.

I am asked most often if one should tell the person that they are dating. I feel this is a moral question. It is really based more on ones belief system. There is no right or wrong answer. There is only the answer that is best for you.

I would suggest you ask yourself the following when deciding which decision is best for your situation.

1) How will you feel about yourself if you are not honest?

2) Where would you like to see the relationship go in the long term?

3) If you are not honest initially. Will this person be hurt by finding the truth later on?

My personal dating experience is limited. I prefer relationships were I can be honest. Therefore, finding someone able to accept my career can be tricky. It is something I am comfortable with. At the same time it makes the relationships I do have that much closer for having shared my experience.

At the end of the day it is about what makes you feel comfortable. You want to have a healthy happy relationship. How you create that is ultimately completely in your control.

Best Wishes,

Arden

Your Photos On Social Media

This is directed at the ladies in the industry that blur their face for safety or personal reasons.

There are some who have beautiful photos and then blur there face. This is understandable for many reasons. The photos are gorgeous and you want to share them with people in your private life, so you post them on your personal account.  I often see them on Instagram and Twitter.

I’m not sure if many of you realize these photos are easily traceable. Programs like Tin Eye and Google Images can match the images from your professional website to those posted on a personal account. (Some blocking may prevent this) Depending on how much personal information about yourself you post on your personal social media account. This could potentially give clients, friends or family a wealth of information about your life.

If you are choosing to keep the two lives separate then keep your photos separate too. This is my chosen lifestyle. It is easy for me to not have any personal accounts. There is no right or wrong. It’s simply a matter of safety. Be aware of what you are posting on the internet. Very little is private on the Worldwide Web, so play it safe.

Have a wonderful week!

Arden

 

Marketing

First, let me say I apologize for not positing for some time.

Now, I realize the economy is slow right now.  You will see this anytime world events are unfolding. Of course this is also all relative to your price point. The end of the summer is also typically a slow time.  Please don’t panic ladies. This is in part why it’s always a good idea to put away money when things are more productive.

It’s a good time to look at your marketing. I have had my book criticized in regards to the marketing being incorrect or misinformed. I don’t take it personally, however it does amuse me as every city is different. There is no right or wrong way.

Your marketing should be geared to your persona, city and price point. What I call the big three are present in most cities. (P411, Eros and CityVibe) Yet, in each city clients tend to gravitate to one over the other. It’s best to do your research. Find out what clients are using more in your city. An example would be here in Las Vegas. Currently there is such a saturation of ladies some don’t pay for advertising at all.

I know ladies who do good business by using the local and national boards. They also spend time actively contacting clients they have seen before. Despite being a slow time this is very cost-effective for them, as they are not paying the cost of advertising.  Don’t be afraid to experiment. There is no right or wrong. There is only what works best for you.

Hope this find you happy, healthy and successful in life.

Arden Moon

Client Catch Up

Summer time can be slow. It may be time to catch up with old clients.

Maybe you haven’t heard from your ATF for awhile. Take some of your summer free time to catch up. Give yourself 30 mins or an hour. Take that time to drop a quick note to a few friends. See how they are doing. Send them a pic or cartoon you found.

There is no reason to be passive. Summer can still be a great time for you!

 

Love and Kisses,

Arden Moon

Latest Review

From C. in California. Thank you for the kind Amazon review.

“Arden Moon did a fantastic job writing this book! I’m very glad I finally bought it & it was filled with very useful information. If you’re starting out this is a must read. I’ve been in the business for 4 yrs and if I had read this book it would have saved me some lessons & steps! Good luck & thanks again Arden for the great read!”

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