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Archive for the month “August, 2013”

Recovery Time For Men

Refractory period

“Most men experience a refractory period immediately following an orgasm, during which time they are unable to achieve another erection, and a longer period again before they are capable of achieving another ejaculation. During this time a male feels a deep and often pleasurable sense of relaxation, usually felt in the groin and thighs. The duration of the refractory period varies considerably, even for a given individual. Age affects the recovery time, with younger men typically recovering faster than older men, though not universally so.

However, some men are able to achieve sufficient sexual arousal immediately after ejaculation, and others may have refractory periods of fewer than 15 minutes. A short recovery period may allow them to seamlessly continue sexual play from one ejaculation to sexual stimulation in preparation for the next. However, other men are averse to stimulation during the early part of the refractory period.

There are men who are able to achieve multiple orgasms, with or without the typical sequence of ejaculation and refractory period. Some of those men report not noticing refractory periods, or are able to maintain erection by “sustaining sexual activity with a full erection until they passed their refractory time for orgasm when they proceeded to have a second or third orgasm”.  ~Wikipedia

Who are your clients?

Clients are your bread and butter.  It is best to get to know as much as you can about men.  We are all human and we all have the same basic needs.  We all want to be heard.  We all want to feel desired and feel a physical connection with someone from time to time.  Who you meet will depend on the niche you chose and the way you market yourself.  You will have encounters with men from all walks of life.  In my career I have dealt with corporate managers, small business owners and CEO’s, professional athletes, lawyers, doctors, diplomats, and more.

Always remember that despite the size of their bank account these men have the same character traits as the rest of the general public.  A man’s financial success does not insure that he is kind, safe, or someone you want to deal with for your own health and mental well-being.  Just because they are of a high social ranking does not mean that they will be the ideal date.  It is best to wipe any ideas of Prince Charming from your mind and deal with each person on an individual basis.

Creating a safe and light environment for your client to be themselves is your primary goal.


Foreword by Vin Armani

Sharing an excerpt from “The Courtesan Handbook” foreword..

“The book you are about to read is comprehensive.  The advice that Arden gives in this book is much of the same advice that I have heard her give to her disciples.  I am unaware of another guide that gives such valuable advice on our industry in such a tested and accomplished voice.  As with all artistic pursuits, becoming a master courtesan is as much vision (how you do what you do) as it is program (what you do).  Arden approaches each section of the book with an eye toward what she calls “The Three S’s”: Safety, Sanity, and Sales (in that order).

In addressing safety, The Courtesan’s Handbook gives comprehensive instruction on the all-important screening process that is used industry-wide.  In my experience, escorts who are careful, competent screeners – who are strict in their screening standards – are able to work for years (if not decades) without a significant legal or safety concern.  Arden shares the screening protocol that she uses herself.  This information alone would be worth the price of the book, but Arden also shares methods for successfully handling issues (with both clients and other escorts) that may affect your safety as you begin your career.”

~ Vin Armani / Elite Male escort/ Star of Showtimes Gigolos


Reading Material

If you have the time I would like you to read “The Gift of Fear” by Gavin De Becker.

I may seem off topic. After you read it you should see it’s importance in what you do. Obviously there are times you won’t be sure what you’re getting yourself into. You want to be prepared to handle yourself to the best of your ability. Having a little fear is a good thing. Having no fear is dangerous.

If you like a good psychological read you will enjoy it.

Advertising Sites

Here are some of my favorite advertising sites:

Having great photos always helps. You will find each site has their individual guidelines in regards to posting.

Own Your Own Business

How long have you wanted to be your own boss?

For most people they’ve dreamed of it their whole life.

“Independent escorts meet no stereotype.  They are exotic dancers, students, lawyers, models, single mothers, house wives, porn stars, career escorts.  You will find hourly rates, sometimes referred to as “donations,” from $300 to $1,200 per hour and up!  The internet provides a vast market with endless potential. ”


As with many thing in life there are give and takes. Look more into the lifestyle to see if it works for you.



Offering Q & A

I just wanted people to know that I am happy to address questions in this blog. Please feel free to comment or send posting ideas. If you are an established provider and have information you feel is helpful you are invited to share.

I know each lady has her own way of treating her clients, advertises, etc. I’m very open to sharing with those with less experience. Of course all contributions should be of a positive nature. If I feel the need to edit content I will.

Sending you good thoughts…

Arden Moon

Today’s Tip: You should send a thank you note. There are many escorts to choose from . Let him know you appreciate his/their time.

Resourse Guide To Help You

I’ve been getting great emails with great questions. I do my best to get back to them. However, if you haven’t read the book first. You should give it a good read.  It is as close to holding your hand step by step as I could make it. No sugar coating just your to take in and decide if being a career courtesan is right for you.

“The Courtesan Handbook” has a very useful resource guide in the back. These sites will help you get your start on a path to success. You will find a number of links to advertising, review sites, online communities, adult web designers, photographers and more.

One great place you may want to start is with the  HobbyxxxChange!HobbyxxxChange

Research Is Always Helpful


If you are going to start doing research. The Erotic Review is a great place to start. You may want to start by reviewing posts in your city. There may be many opinions there. Keep in mind this is just research.

From the Author

I just wanted to take a time to express how much I appreciate the support “The Courtesan Handbook” has received.

Different people have been able to take different bits of information from it. I think this is fabulous. However, I want people to know the true intent behind the book. It is something that I put myself into. It was not a project for profit. It is there to provide information for those starting down the path without the tools they need.

It is easy to browse the internet and pick up things here or there. I feel if you are going to make the choice to be an escort, as with any profession, you should have some sort of mentor or training. The best place to be everywhere was through the handbook.

When I would see different boards with ladies posting $150 for an hour of their time. I’ve even seen $80 for 15 minutes. It would almost make me sad. Everyone does have to start somewhere. The internet has helped turn the world’s oldest profession in to even more of a business. There are some industry standards in place. I feel these ladies should have all the background information possible to begin with.

Safety and self-worth are a very important factors in the lifestyle of a courtesan. I was recently told by a seasoned courtesan that the guide had information it took her “years” to learn. That was music to my ears.

Have a fabulous day!


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