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Escorting and Dating

This is a question I hear very often from escorts. Can I still date? What do I tell him?

There are escorts in very strong relationships. Some ladies are even married. I have seen couples out there that work together.

If you are an escort looking to date it can be hard. The preconceived notions of what you actually do can stand in the way. It’s hard for someone who hasn’t been in the business to understand in total what an escort does.

For the most part I see ladies who make up stories and don’t tell the person they are dating the truth. The advice I was given by my friends and family was similar. “Let him get to know you first”, they would say. To me this was lying. I didn’t want someone to fall for me. Then months later I’m faced with telling them the truth. At that point even if they do understand. Will they be upset I was dishonest for so long? I know I would be. My most successful and longest relationships have been with men in the adult business. Of course the chances of you meeting a club owner, dancer or male escort that you have feelings for is statistically low. I’ve been blessed.

My advice is to plan to not to date seriously or be honest. I don’t feel stressing yourself with lies or drama is worth it. Escorting can be an alienating position. It is tempting to go against your better judgement to fill the needs of the heart. Whether it is worth it for you in the long run, only you can decide. Make friends with ladies in the industry. I find that to always be helpful.

Follow your heart when it comes to dating and what information you share. People’s minds tend to be more open these days. You never know how true and deep things can run in a relationship.

I wish you all the best!




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2 thoughts on “Escorting and Dating

  1. I wouldn’t mind seeing another post about HOW to successfully make friends with ladies in the biz. I was outed to my family and robbed by a stripper and I hear constantly that most escorts/strippers who are outed are outed by other girls, not clients. I believe in having friends who understand your life(style)/work, but how does one approach with caution; there are many thinly veiled cases of girls who have red hot tempers/bipolar type issues in this biz.

    • Sadly I have heard this many times. Not just in regards to other providers. Also from a clients that got too close and felt scorned. I don’t know that your career of choice matters, as much as, being very selective as to who you have around you. Someone in any work atmosphere isn’t going to be your fan.
      This industry tends to be a very competitive by nature.
      You can start by setting yourself apart by not getting wrapped up in competition or others business. Take joy in your life and what you do. By doing this you will most likely draw the attention for providers like yourself and be able to make a few friends.
      Most of my long term friendship that started in the industry developed over time. You build trust as you get to know them. Some can only keep a veil up for so long.

      Arden Moon

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