This is an excerpt from “The Courtesan Handbook” Having a background knowledge of, as well as, a love for what you do make for longevity in the industry. ~Arden Moon
What is escorting? Basically, to be an escort is to receive money or gifts in exchange for your company and, in many cases, a sexual encounter. Does this mean that an escort lies on her back and someone just hands her money? No. Making top dollar as a professional escort takes work. You have to have good looks, brains and class. Furthermore, being an escort is not for everyone. Before you even start to read this book you should take the readiness test and see how you score. You may find the world of escorting isn’t as easy as you think. There is no way to transfer all my years of know-how to you. My hope is that by the time you finish this book, you will have all the tools you need to develop your own business style without going about things “the hard way.” To start, I want to introduce a key concept: The Three S’s.
Sales, Safety and Sanity!
Never let those three basic ideas leave your mind in any transaction. I can give you the tools, but you have to use them.
In the past escorting was not perceived as a profession or trade. Although often termed “The world’s oldest profession,” many still look upon the career as solely the domain of down-fallen women. It is a pity that, no matter her background, an escorted may still find herself tagged with this stereotype. Women in the escort business are often assumed to be abused, mentally unstable, on drugs, or possibly pressured by a significant other or pimp. Whether walking the street or working as a high class companion, there may always be a stigma attached to the profession. Because you are not sticking to the social norms, being an escort will cause you to look at the world in a different than the rest of the population does. Why be normal? Normal and mundane is highly overrated. Different minds will perceive you in different ways. Do not be surprised if even the most understanding individuals still look at you as somewhat defective.
There will also always be some mental and physical risks that you take as an escort. Due to these risks, friends and family will most likely prefer to see you in a “healthier lifestyle.” You’ll have to decide, up front, how much you want your personal life to cross over into your professional. How much do you want those close to you to know? My hope is that with over a decade of experience in adult entertainment, I can guide you through the safest way to create a lucrative business, as well as take care of yourself personally.
To begin this process I think it is very important to know the history of the courtesan. Why? I believe having a history of those who came before you will help instill a sense of pride for what you do.
I’ll be up front and let you know now that being on someone else’s dime all the time can wear on you personally. The more pride you can take in yourself and your occupation the better off you will be. “Courtesan” is a long forgotten term used centuries ago in the profession. The courtesan was very often a female companion to royalty and nobles. Very often it was the courtesan that kept the economy moving in newborn cities and towns. Many women actually achieved great wealth and courtesans were some of the earliest female business and land owners.
The book, Grandes Horizontales, The Lives and Legend of Four Nineteenth Century Courtesans, by Virginia Rounding is an excellent read for the life story of a renowned courtesan envied for her wealth and immortalized in sculpture and poetry. Other great sources for background on the art of escorting can be found via a number of History Channel productions. Their productions of the History of Sex, History of Prostitution: Sex in the City, and Prostitution: Sex and the Law are excellent for a look at escorting through the ages.