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What is Escorting?

This is an excerpt from “The Courtesan Handbook” Having a background knowledge of, as well as, a love for what you do make for longevity in the industry.  ~Arden Moon

What is escorting? Basically, to be an escort is to receive money or gifts in exchange for your company and, in many cases, a sexual encounter. Does this mean that an escort lies on her back and someone just hands her money? No. Making top dollar as a professional escort takes work. You have to have good looks, brains and class. Furthermore, being an escort is not for everyone. Before you even start to read this book you should take the readiness test and see how you score. You may find the world of escorting isn’t as easy as you think. There is no way to transfer all my years of know-how to you. My hope is that by the time you finish this book, you will have all the tools you need to develop your own business style without going about things “the hard way.” To start, I want to introduce a key concept: The Three S’s.

Sales, Safety and Sanity!

Never let those three basic ideas leave your mind in any transaction. I can give you the tools, but you have to use them.
In the past escorting was not perceived as a profession or trade. Although often termed “The world’s oldest profession,” many still look upon the career as solely the domain of down-fallen women. It is a pity that, no matter her background, an escorted may still find herself tagged with this stereotype. Women in the escort business are often assumed to be abused, mentally unstable, on drugs, or possibly pressured by a significant other or pimp. Whether walking the street or working as a high class companion, there may always be a stigma attached to the profession. Because you are not sticking to the social norms, being an escort will cause you to look at the world in a different than the rest of the population does. Why be normal? Normal and mundane is highly overrated. Different minds will perceive you in different ways. Do not be surprised if even the most understanding individuals still look at you as somewhat defective.
There will also always be some mental and physical risks that you take as an escort. Due to these risks, friends and family will most likely prefer to see you in a “healthier lifestyle.” You’ll have to decide, up front, how much you want your personal life to cross over into your professional. How much do you want those close to you to know? My hope is that with over a decade of experience in adult entertainment, I can guide you through the safest way to create a lucrative business, as well as take care of yourself personally.
To begin this process I think it is very important to know the history of the courtesan. Why? I believe having a history of those who came before you will help instill a sense of pride for what you do.
I’ll be up front and let you know now that being on someone else’s dime all the time can wear on you personally. The more pride you can take in yourself and your occupation the better off you will be. “Courtesan” is a long forgotten term used centuries ago in the profession. The courtesan was very often a female companion to royalty and nobles. Very often it was the courtesan that kept the economy moving in newborn cities and towns. Many women actually achieved great wealth and courtesans were some of the earliest female business and land owners.
The book, Grandes Horizontales, The Lives and Legend of Four Nineteenth Century Courtesans, by Virginia Rounding is an excellent read for the life story of a renowned courtesan envied for her wealth and immortalized in sculpture and poetry. Other great sources for background on the art of escorting can be found via a number of History Channel productions. Their productions of the History of Sex, History of Prostitution: Sex in the City, and Prostitution: Sex and the Law are excellent for a look at escorting through the ages.

When To Say No

When do you say no. Anytime your gut tells you too. Even if gentlemen are well screened there could be a gut feeling that you just won’t “click”. This could come from his verbiage, constant emails or perhaps an inappropriate comment. It is always best to go with you gut. You may or may not always be right. It’s best if you can be in a position where you don’t have to take the appointment, so you feel free to just say no.

It’s much better to let an appointment go than to enter a situation you aren’t 100% comfortable in. Many times you will find you are right. It’s never good for either side if an appointment doesn’t go well or you are hurt.

Always remind yourself. “All money isn’t good money”. Sometimes taking the chance things will go south just isn’t worth the risk. Always know that you can just say “no thank you”.

Have a great day!

Arden Moon

A Good Tax Resource

It’s that time of year! There are some great firms who specialize in helping ladies in the industry do their taxes, etc.

You may want to look into a company that can give you assistance in this area. They are here to help. It’s a very important issue to cover in your business. They are able to assist you whether or not they are located near you. I feel it’s good to have peace of mind on this topic.

Have a great week!

Arden Moon

Westwood Tax

Web: www.westwoodtax.com

Tele: (212)835-1664

Advertisement Sites

Hello All,

I wanted to take a moment and post some sites worth looking into. I realize some are in the resource section of the book. I’d like to just have some here for those setting up “shop” so to speak.

  1. http://www.eros-guide.com
  2. http://www.slixa.com
  3. www.ginaslittlesecret.com
  4. http://www.cityvibe.com
  5. http://www.preferred411.com
  6. http://www.myproviderguide.com
  7. http://www.nyxclusive.com
  8. http://www.city-source.com

A couple of these sites have requirements you must meet first. Be patient. All good things come in time.

Be well. Be Safe. ~Arden Moon

Knowing Clients Personalities

One of the most difficult parts of being a courtesan is learning to see your clients needs. This is something that  is only done with time and practice. It is most often to your benefit to listen first and respond second. For example…

The Sterile Guy:

This name does not imply that the client is physically sterile.  This client is “sterile” in the sense that he lacks a certain amount of emotion or animation.  This is often times a very business-focused, driven individual.  For example, this could be your busy executive or Type-A overachiever.  His brain doesn’t stop.  He is constantly thinking about his next meeting or task.  Even though he has booked time with you for an intimate encounter, he still may not be all there with you mentally.  It is not your place to feel responsible if he can’t unwind and enjoy your time together.  You can only do your best.  I have met a number of these men and most have been very successful.  Yet, they were uptight and sterile on several levels.  With all that is client has on his mind, be forewarned, he may have a hard time getting an erection.

Talking about something light and not related to business is a good way to start.  You can continue on with offering a massage and doing your best to get him to relax.  This sort of personality can at times come across as a bit controlling.  If he is used to being the boss and getting what he wants, he may already have in mind how he wants the session to go.  As long as it is nothing harmful to you, just go with it and try to follow his lead.  He may also be very quiet or seem to be in deep thought.  Don’t be afraid to compliment him on his sexual skills or appearance.  Every man, no matter what his status, wants to hear positive reinforcement.   ~ Excerpt “The Courtesan Handbook”

More About Fellatio

Added stimulation at the tip is typically very helpful. In early fetal stages the human anatomy is the same. I believe that is why tend to be more sensitive at the tip, due to the fact, that had they been female. This same anatomical area would have been the clitoris.

A few weeks after fertilization, the initial appearance of the human fetal genitalia is basically feminine: a pair of “urogenital folds” with a small protuberance in the middle, and the urethra behind the protuberance.

In typical fetal development, the presence of the SRY gene causes the fetal gonads to become testes; the absence of it allows the gonads to continue to develop into ovaries Thereafter, the development of the internal reproductive organs and the external genitalia is determined by hormones produced by fetal gonads (ovaries or testes) and the cells’ response to them.

If the fetus has testes, and if the testes produce testosterone, and if the cells of the genitals respond to the testosterone, the outer urogenital folds swell and fuse in the midline to produce the scrotum; the protuberance grows larger and straighter to form the penis; the inner urogenital swellings swell, wrap around the penis, and fuse in the midline to form the penile urethra.

If testosterone is not present, normal female development continues, with the development of a perineal urethra and the formation of a uterus, clitoris and vagina. ~ Wikipedia

This video is a bit cheesy. However, the information is helpful if you are not well versed in this area

http://www.dailymotion.com/video/xlccb6_7-blowjob-tips-that-will-turn-his-knees-to-jelly_lifestyle

True Threesomes

In my opinion you have at least two kinds of threesomes. This does not include couples how have their own special needs.

The first type is a “two on one”. This means you can have any to ladies, bi or not. They make a show or double team the client. For the most part all attention is on him. Depending on your personality this may work. Many find it too much stimulation and can ‘t focus. To me this is more of a show.

The second type is what I really enjoy. In the “true Bi’ encounter both ladies are bisexual. This way during playtime the attention is spread. The man can lay back and have some great visuals or participate at anytime. To me this is a true threesome. There is a lot of love to spread around sort to speak. It’s like a little party and so much fun!

If you are looking into trying to threesome as a male or female. You may want an established female duo that is truly bisexual and love what they are doing. I have found those encounter to be the most memorable.

If you are an escort who is just not comfortable with a woman on an intimate level. Then I would say that a threesome situation is probably not right for you to offer as a service.

 

Have a fabulous Holiday!

Arden Moon

 

 

 

 

Recovery Time For Men

Refractory period

“Most men experience a refractory period immediately following an orgasm, during which time they are unable to achieve another erection, and a longer period again before they are capable of achieving another ejaculation. During this time a male feels a deep and often pleasurable sense of relaxation, usually felt in the groin and thighs. The duration of the refractory period varies considerably, even for a given individual. Age affects the recovery time, with younger men typically recovering faster than older men, though not universally so.

However, some men are able to achieve sufficient sexual arousal immediately after ejaculation, and others may have refractory periods of fewer than 15 minutes. A short recovery period may allow them to seamlessly continue sexual play from one ejaculation to sexual stimulation in preparation for the next. However, other men are averse to stimulation during the early part of the refractory period.

There are men who are able to achieve multiple orgasms, with or without the typical sequence of ejaculation and refractory period. Some of those men report not noticing refractory periods, or are able to maintain erection by “sustaining sexual activity with a full erection until they passed their refractory time for orgasm when they proceeded to have a second or third orgasm”.  ~Wikipedia

Reading Material

If you have the time I would like you to read “The Gift of Fear” by Gavin De Becker.

I may seem off topic. After you read it you should see it’s importance in what you do. Obviously there are times you won’t be sure what you’re getting yourself into. You want to be prepared to handle yourself to the best of your ability. Having a little fear is a good thing. Having no fear is dangerous.

If you like a good psychological read you will enjoy it.

http://www.amazon.com/Other-Survival-Signals-Protect-Violence/dp/0440508835/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1377212643&sr=8-1&keywords=the+gift+of+fear

Advertising Sites

Here are some of my favorite advertising sites:

http://www.preferred411.com

http://www.cityvibe.com

http://www.Eros-guide.com

http://www.Slixa.com

http://www.gfedesires.com

Having great photos always helps. You will find each site has their individual guidelines in regards to posting.

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