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Isolation In Escorting

The feeling of isolation is something many escorts face. Most often this is due to dealing with the taboos of society. Fear creates a barrier. Very often ladies are not able to speak openly about there career choice to friends or family therefore feeling isolated. The are of course other ladies in the industry who share this feeling. Yet again due to fears regarding cattiness and competition ladies are very often reluctant to seek out friendship within the industry. Isolation is something you should definitely deal with head on. For many isolation leads to negative energy or lack of enthusiasm when it comes to clients. The saddest things we see from isolation in the industry is self medicating with can be life changing.

If these are your thoughts, you are by no means alone. I counsel women on a weekly basis for just this reason. I am privileged to consult on business choices and the lifestyle itself. Most importantly I am able to lend an ear. Sometimes it is things going on in their personal life. More often than not it’s issues we all face on our path as courtesans. There are some ladies that aid their self care by having a professional counselor or mentor in there life. I find that professional counselors can be helpful if they are non-judgmental about your career choice. (Venting to clients is highly discouraged)

You can make friends in the industry. It takes time and patients. As with any relationship to you have to pick and choose who you give your energy to. Filtering is also very important. I’m not saying they will be you BFF for life. However, it is helpful to have some you can “talk shop” with sort of speak. As in most cases where our fears stand in our way. You will most likely find you have far more in common than differences. You may even find a bit of a “sisterhood” very often lost of late with the influx of new talent to the industry. On many occasions I have often learned a new trick or two.

No matter the route you take. I believe that just being heard and hearing that others share your feelings or concerns is very healing. It ultimately creates a good balance between caring for your clients and caring for yourself. You exhaust a lot of energy doing for others. It is a small way you can give back to yourself.

I hope you find this helpful.. Arden xo

*Note: I ask if you want to ask questions or respond to this post you do so here. I would like to be able to share experiences with as many as possible.

What is Escorting?

This is an excerpt from “The Courtesan Handbook” Having a background knowledge of, as well as, a love for what you do make for longevity in the industry.  ~Arden Moon

What is escorting? Basically, to be an escort is to receive money or gifts in exchange for your company and, in many cases, a sexual encounter. Does this mean that an escort lies on her back and someone just hands her money? No. Making top dollar as a professional escort takes work. You have to have good looks, brains and class. Furthermore, being an escort is not for everyone. Before you even start to read this book you should take the readiness test and see how you score. You may find the world of escorting isn’t as easy as you think. There is no way to transfer all my years of know-how to you. My hope is that by the time you finish this book, you will have all the tools you need to develop your own business style without going about things “the hard way.” To start, I want to introduce a key concept: The Three S’s.

Sales, Safety and Sanity!

Never let those three basic ideas leave your mind in any transaction. I can give you the tools, but you have to use them.
In the past escorting was not perceived as a profession or trade. Although often termed “The world’s oldest profession,” many still look upon the career as solely the domain of down-fallen women. It is a pity that, no matter her background, an escorted may still find herself tagged with this stereotype. Women in the escort business are often assumed to be abused, mentally unstable, on drugs, or possibly pressured by a significant other or pimp. Whether walking the street or working as a high class companion, there may always be a stigma attached to the profession. Because you are not sticking to the social norms, being an escort will cause you to look at the world in a different than the rest of the population does. Why be normal? Normal and mundane is highly overrated. Different minds will perceive you in different ways. Do not be surprised if even the most understanding individuals still look at you as somewhat defective.
There will also always be some mental and physical risks that you take as an escort. Due to these risks, friends and family will most likely prefer to see you in a “healthier lifestyle.” You’ll have to decide, up front, how much you want your personal life to cross over into your professional. How much do you want those close to you to know? My hope is that with over a decade of experience in adult entertainment, I can guide you through the safest way to create a lucrative business, as well as take care of yourself personally.
To begin this process I think it is very important to know the history of the courtesan. Why? I believe having a history of those who came before you will help instill a sense of pride for what you do.
I’ll be up front and let you know now that being on someone else’s dime all the time can wear on you personally. The more pride you can take in yourself and your occupation the better off you will be. “Courtesan” is a long forgotten term used centuries ago in the profession. The courtesan was very often a female companion to royalty and nobles. Very often it was the courtesan that kept the economy moving in newborn cities and towns. Many women actually achieved great wealth and courtesans were some of the earliest female business and land owners.
The book, Grandes Horizontales, The Lives and Legend of Four Nineteenth Century Courtesans, by Virginia Rounding is an excellent read for the life story of a renowned courtesan envied for her wealth and immortalized in sculpture and poetry. Other great sources for background on the art of escorting can be found via a number of History Channel productions. Their productions of the History of Sex, History of Prostitution: Sex in the City, and Prostitution: Sex and the Law are excellent for a look at escorting through the ages.

Marketing and Your Ego

Welcome to 2014!

In the coming year you will see new things heading your way in regards to online marketing. Beware!Don’t cater to you ego to fill someone’s pocket.

You have seen the websites who parade reviews across the world-wide web. Only then to place, or not, place you on a subjective list of supposed elite companions. You will see new sites arise doing the same. I promise you a vast majority of these sites come and go within 2 yrs maximum. These reviews and placement “do not” an elite courtesan make. They are subjective. Often the are one-sided, bought, begged, charmed or negotiated for. I encourage you NOT to be sucked in. This is catering to your ego only! This is how the advertisers get you to spend hard-earned money on sites for appearance sake, which actually bring you little to no business. Do you want to be part of the herd or do you want to stand out for your individual talents? The potential client does care about a label at the end of the day. In fact it is to your disadvantage to be anything but yourself. Yes, you are often selling a fantasy. However, there is a difference between delivering that fantasy and creating an image which promotes some higher expectation that no woman can deliver. This doesn’t nurture repeat visits.

I encourage you to do your research when spending you advertising dollar. Something that works for one escort may not work for another. Don’t be sucked in because you aren’t “featured” on every website in town. This is the industries way to cater to your ego. Words like “feature” “elite” “sponsored” “advanced placement” are all ego based to make you feel as if you are creating a place for yourself that makes you special. You are special. However, is that placement doing what it truly should. Bringing you new clients and companions. Is it really telling people who you are? Or in the end are you just another name on the list or a face on a row of photos?

I ask that you think independently. Don’t follow what you think the perceived top ladies are doing. Don’t follow something a gentlemen hobbyist tells you, because he must know what works. A large part of this business on many levels is about going with you gut. If I can be so bold, follow your heart. What it true to you? How do you want to be seen?

How do you do this? Take control of your own image and the avenues you control. Take a fresh look at your website. Does it truly make a statement about who you are? Take a look at your photos. Take advantage of a blog or personal page so that people can get to know you. Great connections make for great companions. You can catch their eye with a great photograph. You can keep their attention by starting a connection before they even contact you with appropriate content that represents you. Don’t allow them to direct you by catering to your ego.

Stay in your lane, but never stay married to a position. DO YOU!

Wishing you all the best in 2014! ~ Arden Moon

 

 

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